Question by Sharon Clairmont: im married to american and im a filipina my husband complaining to me because i loan money to my family but?
but that’s my personal money, when i loan my family money we’re not married that time now everytime we fighting he always bringing up that, my question is my husband have right to bringing up that topic everytime we fight? because when i loan that money we’re not married and that’s my personal money pls help me
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Answer by still looking
no it is not “right”.
yall should goto counceling
What do you think? Answer below!
he has NO right to tell you what to do with YOUR money, if this is such an issue dont ever legally marry this man, maybe you should also stop telling him about the money….he doesnt understand. you need to explain to him that filipino families are different than american families, im hispanis..and i know it is my responsibility to take care of my mother and less fortunate family memebers if i can. its how we were raised. make him understand that family is everything.
It’s impossible to have a fight by yourself. Stop talking the minute he says it. Honestly, though, if that’s your biggest argument, it doesn’t sound bad to me.
your problem is more personal than the question itself,
that is something you should get straight with your mate,
he probably uses that as an excuse to bring you down,
but talk to him about how you feel when he exceeds
and demands power to control, tell him you need freedom
over yourself and would like to have democracy at home
somehow to unite intimate forces and become stronger together as a couple.
good luck.
Americans never help their families out and fair to understand why someone would loan money to help their families.
Tell him that God helps those who gives, and what comes around goes around. You helped your family with that loan and god will repay you. He needs to have faith as well that it will happen. God will repay the good you do so there is no need to worry about your family paying you back. Tell him that it is in your traditions to help your family and you hope he is not that racist and can understand you
No he doesn’t have that right and if he is bringing it up now, he’ll keep bringing it up for the rest of your marriage. Tell him “do I interfere with how you spent your money before marriage? so it doesn’t make sense for you to”
What do you mean that it’s your “personal money“?
If you have a prenuptial agreement that says that he is not entitled to any of your money, then it’s spelled out to the letter what’s his and what’s yours. Just dangle it in front of his face and he’ll shut up.
However, my guess is that you don’t have a prenuptial agreement which then means that what’s yours is his and what his is yours. So the two of you will have to come to an agreement about how much money to send back to your family every month. Once you have the agreement, then there’s no more bringing that up in fights.
I hope this helps.
has there been a time when you used your money fro then benefit of your husband? if so then use that to fight back.